bcachefs: Debug mode for c->writes references

bcachefs: Debug mode for c->writes references

This adds a debug mode where we split up the c->writes refcount into
distinct refcounts for every codepath that takes a reference, and adds
sysfs code to print the value of each ref.

This will make it easier to debug shutdown hangs due to refcount leaks.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>